To get a lap dance in Grand Theft Auto V (GTA 5) as a female character, follow these steps:

1. Visit the Strip Club:
– Go to the Vanilla Unicorn strip club located in Strawberry.

2. Approach a Dancer:
– Enter the club and approach a dancer. You can choose any dancer you like, but some dancers are more likely to agree to a private dance if you have a high enough “like” meter.

3. Request a Private Dance:
– Once you’ve chosen a dancer, you can request a private dance by interacting with her. If she agrees, you’ll be taken to a private room where the lap dance will begin.

4. Play the Mini-Game:
– During the lap dance, you’ll need to play a mini-game where you have to touch and flirt with the dancer until you fill the bar in the right bottom corner of the screen. This involves pressing the right trigger to touch and the appropriate button to flirt.

5. Avoid the Bodyguard:
– There will be a bodyguard who will try to interrupt your dance. When he is nearby, stop touching and only flirt with the dancer. When he moves away, you can resume touching. If you get spotted three times by the bodyguard, you’ll be thrown out of the club.

6. Complete the Lap Dance:
– Continue playing the mini-game until you fill the bar completely. If you succeed, you’ll have completed the lap dance and can either ask the dancer to ride with you or invite another dancer for a double lap dance.

By following these steps, you can enjoy a lap dance in GTA 5 as a female character.